Yes, you read that right, I have a Council of Brides! If any of you are familiar with the Big Bang Theory, I may or may not have got the idea from Sheldon Cooper's Council of Ladies hahaha. I have been wanting to write a few blog posts to help future brides who are planning their big day, and who would have more helpful hints than other brides. I reached out to all of my brides on Facebook and asked them for the most helpful tip they could give to someone who is planning their wedding. This is what they said...
Years Married: 3 months
I'm a wife, a Medical Assistant, and movie days are my weakness. I also love doing crafts! I'm also a mom to my 4 fur babies. 2 guinea pigs, a dog, and a pig! I guess you could say I'm kind of an animal lover.
My advice would be to just enjoy the planning instead of getting stressed out about the million things that we think need to be done! (On a side note, a timeline will be your best friend!) It's so fun seeing everything come together, but it can also be super stressful. Just remember that at the end of this day that you spent months planning, you will be married to your best friend and nothing else will matter!
Years Married: One year and one month
I love cooking, teaching, singing, the theatre, and our dog, Tank! I'm also learning to love hiking and great outdoors per my husband's request.
I think the biggest thing to remember is that your wedding is your day - you and your future spouse! That's it! People will give opinions and advice (which can be good!) but ultimately it's what you want. Don't let others push you in a direction you don't want to go. Make sure you and your fiancé enjoy this beautiful event in your life.
Years Married: Almost a year and a half
I'm a wife and marketing professional, in love with coffee, hot tea, and all things crafty: sewing, crochet, and handlettering.
Take a moment to pause and look around at all the people. For us, this happened at the reception when we were seated looking out at all of our guests. All who are there love you and support/respect your relationship! It's easy to get swept away in the worries of the day, but at the end of the day it's about each other and love. The love you have for one another and the love your guests have for you as a couple. Don't overlook that!
Years Married: A year and a half
We have 2 dogs who are adorable. I love doing crafts and organizing things. And I love our little life together.
My advice is for the brides who are planning their own wedding - have an extra person (at least) there on the wedding day. I'm not talking about the wedding party, the parents, or anyone who already has jobs to do. I mean someone who is only there to receive the flowers, make sure the cake gets there and placed, make sure the food preparation and tables look how you want them, etc. I had a friend from work who has great organization skills and I shared what I wanted and gave her copies of the contracts from different venues and suppliers we had. We had a very small wedding, and I still couldn't imagine doing things without her. We gave her a gift card at the end, and some may or may not want payment, but I loved having an extra person to help things flow.
Years Married: 3.5 years
I'm a wife, fur mom to two pups (Harvey and Scotty) and a bunny (Honey), professional tooth fairy aka dental hygienist, and lover of anything DIY.
Brides get so caught up in all the details and trying to please all their guests and having everything just right that sometimes they look past who the celebration is actually for and end up forgetting to enjoy their big day. Be selfish (but not bridezilla!) on your special day and enjoy every moment. Don't waste time running around trying to take charge of everything (probably where the extra person Adriana was talking about comes in handy). Instead sit back, enjoy your brand new hubby, your family and friends, and let things fall into place.
Years Married: A year and seven months
I'm a wife, and a mommy to my fur baby Charlie. I'm also a banker, singer, and huge nerd. I love many things in life but my motto has been, for a long time now, this: Jesus, Spider-Man, & Mt.Dew. Sums me up pretty well.
My advice would be this:
When people say the day goes by in a BLUR, they are not kidding! It went by so fast, I wish I would have not fretted so much leading up to the wedding focusing on every single detail thinking it was a huge deal. Because at the end of the day all that matters is that you are marrying the person you love and that should be happening no matter if your flower girl and ring bearer cry the whole way down the aisle. Whiiiiich happened to me.... But on that day I didn't care about the small details and just had fun and it was way more enjoyable and memorable. Or maybe my advice would be not to have kids under 3 years old be in the wedding party... Hahaha just kidding! Maybe...
Years Married: Almost a year and a half
Both me and my husband are students working on our second degree (but we graduate this year!) I love animals, going on bike rides and watching movies in my spare time.
During your day take a moment to be alone with your new husband. The day is going to go so fast! Take a few minutes to be together, alone after the ceremony and take it all in. You just married your best friend! You have a new last name! Everyone you love is here to celebrate with you! Enjoy the day and the moment.
Years Married: Two and a half years
I'm a wife, mother, teacher, and 4-H leader. I love photography and all things crafty, especially with my Silhouette.
My advice has to do with worrying about your guests. My dad gave me this advice and he's right. All the guests really care about, or remember for that matter, is if the food is good and the music/dancing was good. I've been to 16 wedding in the last 7 years and I can say that's true. All of the other stuff, assigning tables, center pieces, invitations, etc is all for you and your husband. Don't worry about what the guests will think. What you want on those details is what you should do. You're the only one who will remember.
Years Married: 4 months
I'm a wife, a banker, and a bit of a theatre junkie! I love to travel and binge watch HGTV shows like it's my job.
My advice is to just enjoy yourself! Enjoy the planning process and that time you have together before your wedding. It's going to go by so much faster than you think so don't stress the little things.
Years Married: A little over 2 years
I am a wife, teacher, and mom-to-be. I love cooking and binge-watching Netflix!
My advice to have at least one person go with you who knows you well to all your appointments (choosing flowers, choosing cake, finding food, etc.) They can help you make decisions when you're too dazzled by all the beautiful blossoms and scrumptious food! I know my mom and my bridesmaids really helped me narrow down my options and not feel so overwhelmed.
Additional advice (not related to planning): If you get nervous on your wedding day, just remember that, at the end of that aisle, it's just the person you've loved all along. He or she is not a bride or a groom, but simply the person who yesterday helped you make a triple decker bacon grilled cheese, and proceeded to make fun of you as you tried to fit it in your mouth haha. In my case, I thought of my husband to be as "Mike" instead of "the groom", which greatly helped my frazzled nerves.
Can I just say, I have the BEST brides! If you have any questions that you would like to ask The Council of Brides, feel free to comment. Maybe we will do a post about it some Wednesday in the future.
Happy Wedding Wednesday!